Hey! So What's Your Math? Ok, Number?

Hey! So What’s Your Math? Ok, Number? I think it’s safe to say we’ve all heard this at least once, usually a stranger. Who can be rather peculiar at first but with a few drinks can appear… attractive, maybe? Yes? No? I can’t be the only one who has been in this predicament before. Imagine the scenery, usually at a bar, dim lights so your vision is so-so, and you’re sitting there wondering if anyone noticed how cute you look in your new dress. Then all of a sudden a stranger pulls up next to you and asks you for your math. Ok let’s pause here. Why would anyone call your number math? I was laughing so hard the first time I heard that. Honestly, because at first I was like I know this dude is not asking me to do algebra in this club/lounge. Like what type of reverse psychology is this?

Anyway, let’s move on. Much like that moment in the club where you debate on whether to give this person your real digits or not, let’s discuss the digits. No, not your cellphone digits but your Enneagram digits. Before you dive into this possible strange yet exciting relationship with anyone and anything you gotta know your enneagram digits hun. It could save your life. Before I go into my whole soap opera box as to why you need to get on this train let me give you a little background on this whole Enneagram thing. Just in case you thought I lost my marvels.

The Enneagram is a powerful tool for personal and collective transformation. Stemming from the Greek words ennea (nine) and grammos (a written symbol), the nine-pointed Enneagram symbol represents nine distinct strategies for relating to the self, others and the world. At least that is how it is defined in The Road Back To You by Ian Morgan Cron and Suzanne Stabile. In the diagram below you will see a quick summary of the various Enneagram types or numbers.

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A quick description of each one if you haven’t picked up the book already:

  1. Type One, the Perfectionist: Ethical, dedicated and reliable, they are motivated by a desire to live the right way, improve the world, and avoid fault and blame.

  2. Type Two, the Helper: Warm, caring and giving, they are motivated by a need to be loved and needed, and to avoid acknowledging their own needs.

  3. Type Three, the Performer: Success-oriented, image-conscious and wired for productivity, they are motivated by a need to be (or to appear to be) successful and avoid failure.

  4. They Four, the Romantic: Creative, sensitive and moody, they are motivated by a need to gain knowledge, conserve energy and avoid relying on others.

  5. Type Five, the Investigator: Analytical, detached and private, they are motivated by a need to gain knowledge, conserve energy and avoid relying on others.

  6. Type Six, the Loyalist: Committed, practical and witty, they are worst-case-scenario thinkers who are motivated by fear and the need for security.

  7. Type Seven, the Enthusiast: Fun, spontaneous and adventurous, they are motivated by a need to be happy, plan stimulating experiences and avoid pain.

  8. Type Eight, the Challenger: Commanding, intense and confrontational, they are motivated by a need to be strong and avoid feeling weak or vulnerable.

  9. Type Nine, the Peacemaker: Pleasant, diplomatic and accommodating, they are motivated by a need to keep the peace, merge with others and avoid conflict.

When I first took a gander at this Enneagram, I was all over the spectrum. It seemed like I could be a little bit of everything. It wasn’t until I started reading about the Triad’s that I realized I am definitely gut driven. Triad’s, looking at the diagram above, drives your initial thoughts and reactions. It would depend if you are gut, heart or logic driven. I won’t go into super detail here because you can find all this great stuff in the book and I don’t want to ruin this journey for you guys.

However, I wanted to say by identifying where you are in this diagram will answer quite a few questions for you. It can even help identify why you hate that job you’re in, or why the relationship you’re in is in shambles, or why you’re not opera (not really), or why you just can’t seem to change yourself to fit this box you’ve been trying to fit yourself into. Am I reading your fortune yet? I decided to share this review of the book because it really helped me understand somethings about myself.

When I decided to go on this self-publishing journey I didn’t know what that would look like. I made a complete pivot from corporate to self publishing and was stepping into completely unknown territory. I mean you’re talking to the girl who had to take ESL classes in elementary school. I was never considered a strong writer or story teller. I mean English is my second language (well until you ask my mom). She says I am a vende patria (a traitor), because I can only study, do math, fill out applications and do pretty much anything with legal terminology in English. Hey, it’s what I was taught in school.

I found The Road Back To You fascinating when I read that Ian Morgan was a pastor (spoiler alert). A pastor who was failing miserably. You don’t hear that very often. It’s almost like a sacred sin to say doing God’s work in this way isn’t for me. It is like something that get’s shoved deep down in a sewer and never allowed to come up to surface. So I definitely commend the author for sharing such a deep personal uncommon story (at least for me). Maybe by sharing this it may reaffirm those feelings of uncertainty are really a redirection to the real you. Just maybe this will be the beginning of newer and more understanding you. So tell me in the comments your digits. I promise not to share your math (ha-ha kills me every time).